Many families are going through a divorce, under the influence of typical illusion: the hated spouse, as if by magic, disappear, dissolve it in the air or something like that. But in most cases, when there are children in the family - the reality is very different.
Many parents hope that the child will take a divorce situation calmly and upset when this happens. In fact, all children carry parents' divorce hard, and it is absolutely normal. Just some of them express their feelings, others also suffer, but do not show it.
Moreover, the external manifestation of calm in situations of divorce very often speaks of what is now a neurotic and begin development of the child. What's happening? Children react to divorce parental confusion and fear.
The fact that the child experiences the parents' decision to leave - it's not divorce each other, and the divorce of one of them with the child himself. Strong fears plagued him not only because of the loss the father, but the fear of losing even a mother.
After all, parents explain divorce: "We do not understand each other more, and besides, we have so often quarreled." And he begins to think: "Maybe the moment will come when my mother divorced and me too?
After her father she was divorced. " Some children are impotent rage on whether they feel abandoned. Other children tormented by guilt and then they think: "I was bad, so dad left me." This is reflected, in turn, on their own sense of usefulness:
Many parents hope that the child will take a divorce situation calmly and upset when this happens. In fact, all children carry parents' divorce hard, and it is absolutely normal. Just some of them express their feelings, others also suffer, but do not show it.
Moreover, the external manifestation of calm in situations of divorce very often speaks of what is now a neurotic and begin development of the child. What's happening? Children react to divorce parental confusion and fear.
The fact that the child experiences the parents' decision to leave - it's not divorce each other, and the divorce of one of them with the child himself. Strong fears plagued him not only because of the loss the father, but the fear of losing even a mother.
After all, parents explain divorce: "We do not understand each other more, and besides, we have so often quarreled." And he begins to think: "Maybe the moment will come when my mother divorced and me too?
After her father she was divorced. " Some children are impotent rage on whether they feel abandoned. Other children tormented by guilt and then they think: "I was bad, so dad left me." This is reflected, in turn, on their own sense of usefulness:
