Divorce ... And what about children?

Many families are going through a divorce, under the influence of typical illusion: the hated spouse, as if by magic, disappear, dissolve it in the air or something like that. But in most cases, when there are children in the family - the reality is very different.

Many parents hope that the child will take a divorce situation calmly and upset when this happens. In fact, all children carry parents' divorce hard, and it is absolutely normal. Just some of them express their feelings, others also suffer, but do not show it.

Moreover, the external manifestation of calm in situations of divorce very often speaks of what is now a neurotic and begin development of the child. What's happening? Children react to divorce parental confusion and fear.

The fact that the child experiences the parents' decision to leave - it's not divorce each other, and the divorce of one of them with the child himself. Strong fears plagued him not only because of the loss the father, but the fear of losing even a mother.

After all, parents explain divorce: "We do not understand each other more, and besides, we have so often quarreled." And he begins to think: "Maybe the moment will come when my mother divorced and me too?

After her father she was divorced. " Some children are impotent rage on whether they feel abandoned. Other children tormented by guilt and then they think: "I was bad, so dad left me." This is reflected, in turn, on their own sense of usefulness:

A patient must be approached very carefully and cautiously

In the intoxication of hashish striking foolishly, risibility. The child may laugh at the box of matches on the on or off, to passing on a tram or shown her finger, and so on. And his laugh is literally uncontrollable, to tears.

A conversation with the patient recalls communication with psychiatric patients. The person starts a sentence, he stumbles, and completes the thought of the first thought is quite different, completely unrelated to the first. He stumbles, forgets everything, becomes inadequate or situation, no topic of conversation.

Timbre of his voice lowered, as the mucous membranes to dry quickly. By the way, sometimes drug addicts to check the quality of hemp or hashish use this ability to quickly dry out saliva drug. If after taking cannabis examiner can not normally spit - there is no saliva - a drug considered to be qualitative.

When used opiates "behavior" of pupils patient is ambiguous. At the time of drug administration are greatly narrowed and narrowed still quite a long time, but the output of the patient from the opium intoxication pupils are very wide - in the whole eye, like a plate.

After the appearance of drug dependence child especially needs the help of elders. Not in their cries, not in their hysterics, but it is of help. No need to scare the teenager - he still does not understand the dangers of drugs until the end when he is in serious condition.

Do not expect that he changed his mind at the moment, understood, and began treatment. And do not scold him for it. Now he is "in power" drug. Above him, no one can dominate, but the drug, rather images of his mind-containing drugs.

Why abandoned books?

If your "worst" thoughts are confirmed and you begin to suspect his son or daughter that they smoke "weed" or swallow the "wheel" (pills), you should immediately seek help. Or at least consult with a competent expert, ask for advice on how to proceed? And what we need to act, perhaps, understandable to everyone.

Further changes in the behavior of a teenager too hard to miss. They relate to hobbies and interests. Vested interests usually do not go fast even among teenagers. School, street, friends, home - it's always interesting to the child.

But if parents suddenly find out that just a couple of months ago, their child excitedly told me about his affairs in school and now does not even touch this subject, it should alert them.

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Before visiting the tanning should cleanse the skin from makeup . - Remove all jewelry. - To protect the eyes from UV rays, use of special goggles. - If you wear contact lenses, before tanning sessions remove them. - On a special one-time head wearing a hat, the hair is not burnt out and not become brittle.

Also, for this purpose you can use a hat made ​​of cotton fabric. - Use of tanning professional line designed specifically for the solarium. Apply it on the body with a thin even layer. Such cosmetics to avoid burns, maintains the tan and makes it more durable.

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Time for love? The only effective way to find happiness in a relationship.

In today's world, more people suffer from loneliness. Everyone wants to find a happy family and love, but it can be very few.

People worry about this, after all happy family - indeed perhaps the most important component of a fulfilling life. Someone - is simply out of desperation - enters into a marriage with a partner who has at least some good qualities, it is very far from ideal, which he dreamed. Initially, both understand that nothing good will come of it.

But - we think - and plunge into the abyss originally unhappy marriage, and then for a long time torment themselves and their children. So, what actually prevents people today find happiness in family life, and as generally meet his love ? Let's look at what must be guided by people at different stages of relationship building.

To love someone, that someone must first be met. In order to meet the need to still make some effort. The film industry feeds us with stories of random twists of fate, heroes invariably lead to happiness to the grave.

We begin in this naive to believe and no attempt to acquire the love. In life, it also happens that "love is accidentally come unexpectedly ... ", but it is often necessary to make the most in this process part.

Why can not I get married?

On the topic of marriage written numerous articles and books. They set out a 1000 and a way to do it simpler, easier and faster. Some tips do work and some do not. And most important - it helps it not for everyone.

Someone comes easily, this science, someone has a very weak spots over which to work on. But to get started is to realize that it takes. Consider the details. To safely get married , it is desirable : to be able to attract the attention necessary to you men, to be able to build lasting relationships with them positively and be willing to take the family to have it, get a marriage proposal.

So why at some point there was a hitch? Why can not I get the ball rolling? It's all about intro personal conflict - a regression into the unconscious, playing the so-called "parent scenario." Intro personal conflict - a state in which a person has a contradictory and mutually exclusive motivations, values ​​and goals with which it currently can not handle, can not establish priorities behavior.